This post explores why BMI and calories don't help us lose weight, and what actually does.

Imagine what might happen if, instead of judging ourselves for our "issues", we gently and compassionately inquired into them. What if, instead of beating ourselves up for not being happy, or perfect, or successful, or thin, or even-tempered, or whatever other thing we think we ought to be, we asked ourselves: What am I making this mean about me? What judgement am I making about myself? Where is that judgement coming from? What can this judgement teach me? As Carl Rogers once said: "The...

What is the goal of therapy? Is it to feel better, or is it to get better at feeling? I think it is both. Of course feeling better is a worthy goal. But the truth is that uncomfortable feelings are part of life, and therapy is about giving you the space, insight and tools to help you get better at feeling. The pit-falls of trying to feel better Feeling better cannot be the only goal. After all, we feel better after a glass of wine, or momentarily elated after the purchase of a great pair of...